FAQ
What is the best first sex toy for couples?
A vibrating ring is the most popular choice because it works during sex you're already having and gives both partners sensation. If you'd rather play with teasing and anticipation, a remote-control vibrator is a great alternative.
How do I bring up using a toy with my partner?
Pick a relaxed moment outside the bedroom and frame it as curiosity, not criticism: "I saw this and thought it could be fun to try together." Browse this page together and let your partner pick too. For more help talking about desire, see our Education collection.
Will my partner feel replaced by a toy?
That's a common worry, and an honest conversation usually clears it up. Toys add sensation; they don't replace connection. Choosing one together, rather than surprising your partner, helps it feel like something you share.
Do couples toys work for same-sex couples?
Yes. Finger vibes, remote-control toys, ride-on pads and wearable vibes work for every couple. Vibrating rings also work on a strap-on. Browse our LGBTQ+ collection for more.
How do app-controlled toys work?
The toy connects to a free app on your phone via Bluetooth. Up close, either partner can control it from the app. Many app toys also allow control over the internet, so a partner can play from anywhere. Check each product page for exactly which features and devices are supported.
What size vibrating ring should we get?
Choose stretchy silicone for your first ring; it fits a wider range of sizes. It should feel snug but never painful. Take it off after 20–30 minutes or sooner if you notice numbness, coldness or discomfort, and always follow the manufacturer's instructions.
Do we need lube?
Lube makes almost everything better, especially when adding a toy. Use water-based lube with silicone toys. Coconut oil-based lubes feel great on skin but aren't compatible with latex condoms.